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18 October 2013

Until You're Married, You Don't Understand




So, I'm all happily dressed like this the other day when my cousins start telling me, "You know, I remember you saying years ago, 'I have to wear my purple jeans now, because I won't wear them anymore after I'm married.' "

Now, I have no recollection whatsoever of saying any such thing. I suggested that maybe I actually said that I was wearing my purple jeans all the time back then because I wouldn't be able to wear them when I had a job, or when I had kids, but no, they insisted that I said I wouldn't wear them after I got married.

I then suggested that maybe this was when I was single and I thought I wouldn't get married till I was like 25. And my aunt chimed in, "I'm pretty sure you were engaged at the time."

That rings true, because I remember buying these jeans about a week before Angel and I became 'official.'

So, I have no idea what I was thinking when I said that. I vaguely remember that Angel may have told me he really didn't like my purple jeans early on in our relationship, and perhaps that's what motivated my plan of swearing off colored jeans once I officially became a matron.

And then I didn't stick to it, because obviously, I constantly alternate between green and purple jeans.

Basically, I didn't know what marriage would be like. I think I may have had some generous idea that I'd only wear clothes Angel liked after we were married. But a girl can't live in shorts and t-shirts!

The moral here is either that us married women can wear colored jeans if we want to or else that it's really hard to know what something is like when you haven't experienced it yet.

Did you make any crazy statements about marriage that you've found to be untrue after experiencing the real thing?


delirious rhapsody
Holly said...

When the lace craze hit last year (or the year before..I can't remember!), I loved it. My husband was not a fan--he said it reminded him of his grandma's table cloth. I wore it anyways. Sometimes you gotta wear what you like, even if your husband looks at you like you're a weirdo ;)

Invincible Summer said...

oh gosh, i probably said sooo many things about marriage before i got married. i think that i thought my entire life would change after i got married. and i guess a lot did change...my name, my address, my lack of free time, etc....but nothing really feels different. i still feel like me. and i still do me. i'm still the same person, i'm now just a married person. i think the way society and movies portray marriage & fairytales we think we're going to completely change....but we don't....we're still us...we're just now married. it really is kinda weird how not much seems to change after marriage :)

deanna@delirious-rhapsody said...

from childhood, i swore i was never getting married OR having kids. double whammy for me. it was like a cosmic joke. :)

Suzanne Carillo Style Files said...

Ha ha! First off I said I wasn't going to do it. I was having far too much fun travelling and being on my own.

If by some strange chance I should fall prey to the idea of marriage then my husband would need to do all the cooking because I simply couldn't be bothered. Plus of course I didn't want to do any of the cleaning either. I figured that must also be the man's job. Really I was just there to look nice and have fun while being waited on hand and foot. These were my totally unrealistic ideas when I was around 16-19 years old.

Then I travelled more, worked lots of different jobs overseas and started to grow up. It was a huge awakening.

After that I realized what having a real partner in life could mean.

I didn't get married till I was 24, and honestly even then I found that was early since I'd always imagined I'd wait till I was 30, but in the end it worked out exactly the way it should have.


bisous
Suzanne

melindarose said...

That second photo is absolutely beautiful! I love how you always incorporate so much fun and color into your outfits! :)

Karla said...

I love this! Yes, I have totally done that! Everyone used to tell me marriage would be awful and my social life would be over. And actually.. it's quite the opposite! Happy Friday! You look beautiful!

Bekah Walsh said...

hahahaaha! I can't think of anything but that cracks me up.

Charlene Maugeri said...

Girl, you rock those jeans! I love them! And I really can't think of anything outrageous that I said about marriage before hand but I am sure I did. Marriage is a lot different from what I expected.

Hillary Fay @ A Whole Awful Lot said...

I said that I would have MORE time, and that life would slow down after we got married because we would always be together, so I wouldn't have to get all my stuff done (I lived on my own with a roommate) before he came over or when we would spend the whole day together. There wouldn't be drive time, etc... HA HA HA HA HA! I laugh at myself now. I think I have less free time married than I have ever had!

lisa said...

Love the blouse, such fun colors! It looks awesome with the denim vest, and purple pants for the win!

Judy C said...

I wear what I want. I always have. I do ask my husband's opinion on clothing, but take it with a grain of salt. He frequently tells me that I dress like a grandmother, and I remind him that he fell in love with me anyway. Ha!

I love this outfit, it's so colorful and fun!

Anonymous said...

First, I have to say, the way that vest looks on you, is how I wish my vest fit me! I look like a lumberjack in mine. You look so cute, and I love your top.

Second, I have made all kinds of ludicrous statements about being married before I was married. I think we all do. ;)

Samantha said...

Your purple jeans are amazing!

I am another in the camp of never getting married or having kids. Two kids and a 6 year marriage later...

Elizabeth said...

Well, I'm not married, but I can't imagine you could have a very healthy/successful relationship if one person was changing themselves just to please the other person! Good for you for sticking with what makes you happy :)

Carolynn Markey said...

I love your pretty colorful floral-looking shirt. I wear what I want too. My husband complains by taking it off of me :P

Inge Jane said...

I have no idea yet! But I'm hoping that things won't change much (remind me of that someday haha)

Ann Huffman said...

Keep rockin your colored jeans! Your style is one part of the you your husband fell in love with! ~Ann
Tarnished Royalty

Shaylee Ann said...

Hehehehehehehehehe, YES.

I said way too many naïve and inexperienced things before (and even after) I was married - as was demonstrated in one of my first blog posts, post-marriage. ;) One of those many (even after marriage) being that I refused to call my husband "Babe", because I didn't feel that it was "appropriate". >_< That's changed now...along with a lot of other things. Silly, single, nineteen-year-old Shaylee. :D

Sarah Robbins said...

I said crazy stuff too. I was also the world's most awesome mom- until I had kids. I love your flowered shirt and your vest.

Veronica Lee Burns said...

I just love the title of this post!

I can't remember if I ever said anything, I'm sure I did but I can't remember what..

Rachel Porter said...

hahaha what a cute story... love that your cousins remembered! ;)

Nikki said...

I'm not married (yet), but there's only a few things in my closet that my boyfriend isn't too enthusiastic about. I do still wear them, because we don't see each other everyday (yet) so I can ;-) xo

Susannah said...

Haha. That's too funny! Isn't it weird the preconcieved notions we had about marriage. I, for one, am glad marriage is not the way I thought it would be. :-)

Jennie Grange said...

those purple pants look darling on you!

Anonymous said...

LOL. I love it.

Erika T. said...

Great pair of purple pants! I really can't remember thinking there was something I wouldn't wear when I got married... For the most part, hubby likes 'almost' everything that I wear. :-)

http://rejoicefortheday.com

LeTroy Cooke said...

No but I had a few parenting sweeping statements that turned out to not be true. Love the purple jeans!

Areeba said...

Hahaha I think my married life wouldn't have yoga pants, I just think so #thatswhatasinglesays

Anonymous said...

That top & jean vest look so great together!

I said I would never move into a house that is in the center of town. And here I am. :)

themosbysinchina said...

Love those purple pants. I think thats the message. Married women can wear colored pants. :)

Noor said...

Married women have pressure on clothes . WOAH yes yes yes . I'll ask mom for further info ;) But you know what , colourful pants look great!
Noor's Place

Lenya said...

Lol, love the title of your post Rachel. And I haven't the faintest idea if I ever said any such thing, though.
xo
Lenya

JeanHasBeenShopping said...

What a funny and refreshing post! I love that you can rock the colored jeans. I can't wear green jeans because of Captain Kangaroo. Long story.
I used to think live didn't being until marriage. Sad!
Found you through "why girls are weird" because I too hate scary movies!

Krysten @ Why Girls Are Weird said...

I remember getting a "wife haircut" right after I got married the first time. A short little haircut that was somehow supposed to make my married life easier? Except my hair is so much less easy to style when it's short. And having short hair won't help you with your marital issues.

Luckily this time around I'm not too worried about too much changing. We'll already have lived together for almost 2 years by the time we tie the knot. And I'm pretty stubborn so I can't imagine changing my ways too much!

Lynn {hearted girl} said...

well you're sure rocking the purple Rachel but i totally understand about being a bit swayed by the things your handsome one favors. i think it's only natural to make a bit more of a blending with every aspect in your life when you commit to a partnership in marriage or otherwise. whether it's the dishes you cook or the clothes you wear, we all influence one another but you know your real, true colors always come out in the end and i'm glad you kept purple in your life cos you look so darned adorable :)

thanks for the visit, happy weekend! ♥

Tina Bradley said...

I'm lovin' your purple jeans--floral blouse + jean vest, too! As a married woman of 32.5 years now (smile), I'm in total agreement--we women gotta wear what makes US feel good! Works out best that way. :) Hugs, T. http://tickledpinkwoman.blogspot.com

Lauren @ Love is the Point said...

Those purple jeans are super sweet! Yes, wear them no matter what!

Sara Strauss {Sincerely, Sara} said...

I like your purple jeans! You can definitely wear whatever you want, married or not!
~Sara
Sincerely, Sara

kaitlyn hoffman said...

I have a sense of style for myself as well as keeping up with the joneses. But I like some high fashion that most people won't wear....LEATHER! My husband and his family when I meet him were pretty stylish and would visit paris. Not your average joe family. So he would sometimes tell me what looked good and bad. I grew out of the teenage years fast! LOL....Old Navy has a pair of green jeans I want to purchase!

Lena B, Actually said...

Haha... this is cute! I wear tons of the things the hubby doesn't like. I know he still likes me though ;)
Thanks for linking up for Passion For Fashion!

Laura Darling said...

I'm getting married in March, but I'm sure I will find that some statements I've made are untrue! :) Although I'm glad to see that it's still okay to wear purple jeans!

Fashion-isha said...

You look really cute and when you're married it's a different world!
xo
Sharon

Callie said...

Super cute outfit! :) I'll always remember this moral. :)
~Callie
www.creationsbycallie.com

AJ said...

I'm not married, yet... but in about 6 months...eeeppp!

I have hear SO much advice/comments/crazythings that I don't know what to believe anymore lol. I pretty much just wear what I want anyways though, my fiance isn't very fashion forward lol. I lay out his clothes every morning.

AJ | TheAJMinute
@TheAJMinute

ChatterBlossom said...

What a funny thing to announce! Hahaha! Marriage is an ideal place to wear colored jeans. lime, orange, what have you. The hubs is already in it for life. Can't leave just because his wife wears lime jeans. ;-)
-Jamie
ChatterBlossom

Carolyn McAfee said...

They are great, but I love that you busted out the retro denim vest!
I can't remember life before marriage!
I’d love for you to come join my link up... and inspire me!
http://www.ccmcafeeperspective.com/2013/10/what-im-wearing-inspire-me.html
See you there!
Carolyn