SOCIAL MEDIA

14 February 2014

Love Remembered


I don't remember when I fell in love with him. I have no idea what tipped the scales from "He's just a friend." to "Maybe..." to "This is it."

I remember other bits and pieces, though. I remember him holding my icy cold hands on the day of his college graduation, and somewhere in the back of my mind realizing that, after 5 years of being at this college, he wanted to spend his graduation day, inexplicably, with me, instead of with all the other friends of the past 5 years. I remember answering a phone call from him in the living room of my uncle's house over Christmas break, and responding to my uncle's sideways glances with, "Don't worry, he lives in Texas." I remember Angel telling me, "Let's not tell all of our friends about us till we're sure we're getting married, okay?" and two weeks later, finding out that he'd told everyone. I remember my parents asking over Skype, "If Angel asked you to marry him today, what would you say?" and answering, "I'd say yes" without any hesitation.

I don't remember what convinced me. I have no idea what, at 18 years old, made me so sure that I wanted to marry this man.

But I remember a letter he wrote while at work, telling me he'd picked up two extra shifts that week because he wanted to start our marriage debt-free. I remember cheesy Christian pick up lines he wrote on every single photo I had on Facebook. I remember an American boy who flew to Malaysia to meet my family. I remember a late-night phone call when he told me that he thought I was beautiful even when I was wearing glasses. I remember a man who, because I was still in college, moved from Texas to Michigan and started a new job making less money and working worse hours than his previous job, just so that he could marry me.

I don't remember our wedding. Maybe it's a stress reaction to a busy, momentous day, but I'm not even sure what the ceremony involved until I take a look at an old program.

However, I remember driving to go out for breakfast the next morning. It was bright and sunny, and Angel pulled down his visor, dousing himself with fake snow that my uncles had booby-trapped the visor with. I remember our first Valentine's Day together, Angel silently darting into my Spanish 102 classroom, handing me a bouquet of purple roses, and running away. I remember on our honeymoon, I had to go to the bathroom before we left a shopping center, and while I was in the bathroom he moved our car to a different part of the parking lot, leaving me completely bewildered when I tried to return to our car. I remember going out on a date, and finding out after dinner that Angel had locked the keys in the car, and having to call my grandpa to rescue us. I remember long debates over whether we should splurge and buy the cherry bed frame that we were in love with.

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Looking back, it appears to have been a whirlwind romance, but it never seemed romantic at the time. We were friends who suddenly decided that marriage sounded like a good idea, a very good idea, and that was it.

It's been an adventure.

People who think decorating cookies with their husband is romantic have never decorated cookies with Angel. Now you know why we have a cat named Morphine. Oh, and the shapeless blob on the bottom right-hand cookie? According to Angel, it's a liver. "Because people always draw hearts, so I can draw a liver if I want to."
Eva Marie Taylor said...

That's hilarious that your uncles put snow in the visor of Angel's car!! Sounds like you guys are a great match for each other!! And I like his way of thinking with the liver instead if a heart...haha!
Eva Marie

Emelie said...

This is adorable.

Charlene Maugeri said...

This is so sweet! He flew to Malaysia to meet your family?? So cool. So when you say you were friends who thought it would be a good idea to get married, do you mean you never "officially" dated before that? (whatever that means). That is really cool because you certainly married your best friend and there probably wasn't "in-love" feeling confusing things. Anyway, I love this post. It is perfect for Valentine's day and perfect for your month of adventure!

Tara Honeybird said...

After I saw the C. Diff. cupcake I looked for the MRSA one! Haha!

I, for one, saw a liver without reading the caption. Angel knows his livers.

Laura B said...

That's so sweet! It's fun to look back on how you met and fun memories! And those cookies are hilarious!!

Mary @marygoround4 said...

I loved reading this post, it made my heart happy. And there's something about hearing the name Michigan and Angel moving there to be with you and I just get all emotional lol I'm currently missing michigan! Have a great weekend and a Happy Valentine's Day!

Helene in Between said...

y'all remind me of me and michael. this is so sweet. it's amazing when you can be so young and just know. happy valentine's day!

Purposely at Home said...

hahaha! "it's a liver." this is too sweet. xoxoxo.

AwesomelyOZ said...

That's so sweet :) It's as though you two were meant to be - you're a very cute and suiting couple. I like how Angel decorates cookies - I think he's being cautious. Lol Happy Valentine's day to the both of you! -Iva

Lenya said...

Aw that's so sweet Rachel. Thx for sharing. Happy Valentine's day to both of you.

Brianne @ Lamm to the Laughter said...

Cheers to a long and happy marriage full of many stories and blessings! I just might have to rig up some snow in my husband's visor.

Miki {Becoming What I Always Was} said...

That was such a beautiful post. I loved it! Those are all such sweet memories. I do like that Angel made a liver shape on a cupcake, that's something Jared would do as well. Happy Valentines!

Girl In Beta said...

What a sweet story.

Happy Valentine's Day to you two.

Carolynn Markey said...

oh dear, how unique. my husband: oh, moving the car...that is SUCH a good idea.... me: -_-

Paige @ Reasons to Come Home said...

This is a very beautiful post! And an important reminder of what is really important in our relationships. Happy Valentines Day!

Angela said...

So sweet! Happy V-Day to you both! :)

Jenny Fish said...

You always hear the question, "When did you first know you loved him?" And like you, I have no idea. It was a friendship that blossomed into something more than a friendship. I think your story is beautiful - and I think your cookies are way better than romantic cookies. Happy Valentine's Day, Rachel!

Haley said...

HAHA- you have a cat named Morphine! Now that is funny. Keep him away from the 'streets' you'll never know where he'll end up! I didn't know you were from Malaysia .. how cool! Your recollections of you and Angel are nice... I like the way you pieced it all together in this post.

Whitney M. @ The Married Me said...

Omg! I caught c. diff out of the corner of my eye and I thought "No! That can't be it. I'm sure I'll understand when I scroll down to the rest of the cookies" Then I saw VRE and MRSA. Kind of sick humor but as a nurse I approve! lol

Midnight Cowgirl said...

This is so sweet! Happy Valentine's Day!

Anonymous said...

What a great story! And I love the liver cookie, it's perfect :)

E Mamakli said...

Rachel, thx for stopping by theboxqueen the other day; it made me discover your blog and I love your writing style! I love not taking myself seriously ( although sometimes it may look like I do ) and appreciate that same kind of humor in your stories. I also read your mock outdoor pic post and laughed at myself as I was that girl in the snow. Hope to chat more again later, XOXO, Elif

E Mamakli said...

Also this is such a nice post about love, made me remember my memories. :)

MontgomeryFest said...

suuuuch a precious post! that purple bouquet delivery sounds priceless!!

Suzanne Carillo Style Files said...

What a brilliant post. I really loved this. Makes me think I need to write out something like this about my hubby.

Really loved it. And I'm sure Angel did too : )

bisous
Suzanne

Leia said...

Awww, I love this!

Nicola Kirsty said...

What a beautiful post! <3

Krysten Gautreaux said...

This made me smile so big Rachel. Thanks for sharing it!

Michelle said...

I love this SO much. And I remember pretty much nothing about my wedding ceremony, too. Nothing.

Amanda - Voyage of the MeeMee said...

This was making me feel emotional... and I raaarely get emotional over love stories... but yours is just so cute and you told it so well!
Also, tell Angel he forgot about an XDR cookie. :) :P

Amanda said...

How very very sweet! xx

LauraEhlers said...

What a wonderful post. The cookies are darling. Nothing says I love You like sharing a bacterial disease!! ;)
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Corinne said...

Aww, how cute are you two. I would pick the liver cupcake for sure :p

Corinne x
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MarlaJan said...

Nothing says true love like VRE amd C Diff! What a sweet and beautiful love story!

Anna said...

hahaha!!! I love your cookies!! And he's right, it's totally a liver. :)
I love this post. Your relationship is real and adorable and you guys have the stuff that'll make it last.
ps. save a c-diff cookie for me. And I'll send a V-tach cookie your way!

Megan Walker said...

What a beautiful story! You definitely have a way with words.

Bekah @ re•solve said...

This is the most entertaining V-day post I've read! I would so love to hang out with you two in person - you both seem like a hoot- but especially the giving flowers/running away, and writing "e coli" on a cookie. Nice.

Also, your Sari is GORGEOUS.

Tanya @ Moms Small Victories said...

That is such a sweet post. You seem like a young and happy couple very much in love...gorgeous sari by the way! Stopping by from SITS !

Dee said...

Aww what a lovely love story! Gave me the warm fuzzies!

Alli @ Allena Mistral said...

So sweet :) Happy Valentine's Day weekend! Hope you guys enjoyed your time together!

Ali Hval said...

Waaah! This is such a magical story. Young, happy couples are definitely possible and there's nothing wrong with getting married early if you know for you--which you clearly did. My mom was 19 when she got married and they're still a hoot together. :)

I love those cookies you guys made. Especially the liver one. ;)

Jenniemarie @ Another Housewife said...

So sweet. I love, love stories. My husband and I worked together for an entire year, taking our break together to get something to eat when we worked the same shift, before we started dating. Not once in that year did we see each other outside of work but in our fifteen minute break, we learned so much about each other. When we started dating, it was like we had been together for ever. 14 years together and 4 kids later, we are still the best of friends.

Jenniemarie @ Another Housewife said...

BTW: Stopping by from the SITS Sharefest!

Jennifer Ludwigsen said...

What an awesome story! I love how you captured those little details, the ones people don't see or imagine, the ones that are fleeting but oh so beautiful. Great post :)

Megalin said...

Well that was just way too adorable

Yevgeniya D said...

It happened pretty fast with us too, as you may have guessed from my Valentine's Day post. That's why it's so important to stop and look back sometimes. Sounds like you and your husband have a great relationship.

Thanks for commenting on my blog by the way! I loved this post and your writing style, so I'll be back :)

- Yev @ VolumesofWords.com

Rea Alducente said...

I honestly think your story was sweet and inspiring! And I probably wouldn't know what to do if someone asked to marry me at 18! So kudos to you for braving that challenge. Your story is different from others in a good way and that makes it really special. :)

April @ 100lb Countdown said...

This is so beautiful Rachel. I don't remember that exact moment with my husband either, but I think that means it's right. Maybe, maybe not. Your story is beautiful and sweet. Thank you for sharing with Countdown in Style.

Arielle Berze said...

Love is so mysterious sometimes – it just hits you so suddenly yet gradually? I dunno if that makes sense, but you look absolutely beautiful.

Arielle from Tangled Musings

Carylee said...

I smiled the entire time reading this post, Rachel! I love the randoms of every relationship! Those are the best! You two are just adorable!
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Elicia Shepard said...

WHOA girl. Lots of comments up in here. It's exploding with comments...but I still want to give my 2 cents and tell you that this is adorable and I love it. You're right. We remember the "other moments" and it's what makes life so special. Great post!

Anonymous said...

this is so sweet! belated happy valentine's!

Elle Sees said...

this was very sweet!!!

Christa Sterken said...

This is a precious story, I smiled the whole way through

Christa Sterken said...

P.S. Beautiful picture too!

Erica said...

Heart-string tugging words! It's funny how things can seem so normal at the time, but when you look back, or tell others the story, it kinda strikes you as being unusual. So glad that you went with it though, you two are great together.
And those cookies... I've had a similar experience when I thought it'd be sweet to decorate them. Except while I was drawing hearts and smiley faces and had gone wild and finished 5 of them, Malcolm was still intricately drawing a lion on his with so much detail it made me feel like I was in preschool and mine just looked lame.

Marcy said...

Delivering flowers during your class--how romantic! That's a lovely picture too.

Anonymous said...

Wow he flew to Malaysia? He seems so sweet and I just loved learning all the tid bits of what happened and just how cleverly you shared it in this post. Wishing you guys many more years of wedded bliss. Thanks for sharing with us at Countdown in Style! Don't forget to stop by Friday to see if you are featured :)

Kari said...

This is the sweetest story! It is hard to pinpoint that moment when you go from just liking someone to wanting to spend the rest of your life with them. I’m glad you found such a great partner Happy belated Valentine’s Day!

Three Sisters and Us said...

Such a cute post! it's always good to look back and remember why!

Kaitlyn