SOCIAL MEDIA

18 February 2014

No Valentine's Date for Me

It wasn't for lack of planning. I had two completely different and completely awesome Valentine's Date ideas.

1) We would go play paintball. Angel's never played paintball before, I've played twice, and it's awesome fun. Nothing wrong with this plan.

2) We would go to SkyZone, jump around, and spend the evening with some of our favorite friends at the college Bible study where we met. This date idea was perfect because it combined exercise and fun with romance (you know, the 'back to where we met' factor)

Either one of these would have been an awesome Valentine's adventure. However, when the day came around, our evening adventures turned out to be characterized by a U-Haul and take-out pizza shared with half of my family instead.

While I'd sure like a raincheck on paintball or SkyZone one of these days, our February 14th was an adventure in its own way.


Some of you may remember my post last October about how Summer Vacation Changed My Life. I haven't written much on the subject since, but trust me, in the background, this life change has been motivating most of our actions, with the result that we're working toward moving overseas this summer. I will write more details about it at some point, but for now, what you need to know is that we're preparing as best as we can for a big move a few months from now, which led to how we spent Valentine's Day.

The day before, my mom called me and sprung the news that my parents have decided to sell the house that we live in (we're renters) when we move out. Therefore, they'd decided to show up the next day, February 14th, with a U-Haul to take all of their furniture and everything they had stored in the house out of it so that they wouldn't have to worry about the location of their stuff when it came time to sell the house.

A large percentage of the furniture that we have used for the past three years actually belongs to my parents, so this meant that we had to quickly clear and empty cupboards that needed to be loaded in the truck. My parents also recommended that we take advantage of the already rented U-Haul to take any of our most treasured heirlooms away for storage at my grandparents' home, and we did.

 Goodbye, cupboard.

All of this meant that we spent Valentine's Day itself as well as the next day moving furniture (well, not me. Angel, my dad, brother, and uncle did that) and packing and sorting (that was the job that the ladies tackled!)

Is this book a treasured heirloom, something to give to a friend, or should it be donated to the thrift store?
Valentine's Day was the beginning of my encounter with how big of a change this move will be in Angel's and my lives. In recent months, it has already changed our future plans and dreams...but now it's changing the way my house looks. As I packed boxes, I realized that with this move, I'm letting go of my childhood dreams of owning a dollhouse and having a luxurious library in my own home. I'm letting go of the cupboards where I've stored dishes for the last three years and the desk where I have written hundreds of blog posts.

 Goodbye, gorgeous, gorgeous bed. I will always love you.

Some days, summer, and the adventure that awaits, still seem painfully far away. But then again, I know it's coming closer. We don't have plane tickets yet, although I'd like to, but we're doing exactly what we know we should be doing, and there's so much peace in the midst of what could be scary decisions.

I had plans of fun and frivolity for Valentine's Day, and instead, the weekend left me with a home much emptier and a heart much readier to go.

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On that note, who's up for playing paintball with me?
Inge Jane said...

While your original plans sound fun (paintball is awesome!), your actual weekend still sounds romantic. I mean probably a lot of work, but making progress towards your life goals as a couple? That's pretty amazing stuff right there.

Karla said...

What great progress you both made! So much to look forward to! On to bigger & better things =)

Erica said...

Letting go of things really can be quite freeing, and makes leaving seem that much more final. Well done on being so early at it - we did our best but ended up leaving stuff in our rented flat for my parents to fetch a few weeks after we left.
Also, I'm glad you have so much peace, and that you know what you're doing is right - makes it so much easier!

Suzanne Carillo Style Files said...

Pretty exciting stuff if you ask me. Every time I went somewhere new or took on a new job in a strange country the excitement almost made it hard to breathe or think straight.

A great defining moment in your life.

bisous
Suzanne

Megan Walker said...

Wow! What an awesome adventure you have in store for you : ) My husband is a fourth-year medical student, and we will find out where we're going for residency on March 21. We don't get the final say, so it is very nerve-wrecking, especially for a planner like me. I'm like you: my life is basically the same right now, so I don't think the gravity of what's coming will sink in until it's starts making changes!

Misty B said...

I am so excited for you! Big changes ahead! Cheers to new adventures!

Paige @ Reasons to Come Home said...

Can't wait to hear more about your adventure but it sounds like you had a busy, busy weekend!

Carolynn Markey said...

oh wow! I'm so so so so so excited about this, exp seeing a new country through your eyes on your blog.

Kate @ Another Clean Slate said...

I think you are going to have a pretty incredible few years ahead of you!!

Eva Marie Taylor said...

I would love to try paintball! It looks so fun! I need to go back and read your post about summer vacation changing your life to see what you guys are up to! It sounds exciting though and I'm glad you have peace about it even though it means leaving behind so much!
Eva Marie

Charlene Maugeri said...

It is so great that you two are doing this! I can't wait to follow along with your adventure. And I am so glad that packing up your house this weekend made you more ready for the Summer instead of discouraging you!

Katie Cook said...

Soooo excited for you friend!! Can't wait to hear more:) You bless me! xoxo Katie

jackie jade said...

a big move is always exciting but can be stressful. it's hard to give up some of the possessions we're so used to having around us. but sounds like it'll be super worth it in the end!
-- jackie - jade and oak

Amanda - Voyage of the MeeMee said...

I felt the same way when I moved OUT... I'd never lived away from home before and I missed seeing certain things that I was so used to seeing every day. It's hard! But in the end... it's usually worth it! :)

Lenya said...

I am so excited for you guys, can't wait to read more about your future adventure Rachel, thx for sharing with us sweetie.

Haley said...

That sounds like a really huge move. But, hey.. you sound ready for it.
When my step dad passed away- I had to pack up the family home and get rid of a lot of childhood items. It's sad but it also feels good to start anew.. with your own life.. your own junk to pack around for the next 50 years!! ;)

Jasam Caldwell said...

I'll play paintball with you, but I can't guarantee to be really good. It's been like 4 years since I last played! haha On a more serious note, I think it's interesting how your Valentine's Day went. Although your original plans didn't come through, the arrival of your parents, and the moving of things to the storage have definitely been an interesting change of event. I think it's in those moments that we least expect when we grow as a person. I'm sure everything will turn out for the best, and I hope what you hope for in the future comes true!

Susannah said...

Wow, what a big change!!! I can't wait to hear where you'll be going come summertime!

Saxon @ Lets Drink Coffee, Darling said...

Wow, sounds like plans in action...even if they did happen to fall on Valentine's Day! Eager to hear what comes next!

Laura B said...

You are so brave! What a fantastic way to push you forward and get things achieved so you are able to move this summer! Even if it was on Valentine's Day. And that IS a gorgeous, gorgeous bed!

Kari said...

You have so much excitement ahead of you! Just getting to spend time together sounds like a great way to spend the day. That is a beautiful bed:)

The Lady Okie said...

I am excited to move into a house some day, but I am not looking forward to packing. Sounds like a Valentine's Day to remember! And I would totally go paintballing with you :)

Jennifer Prod said...

so many changes coming up in your life, and such a beautifully written post about holding on and letting go and finding the balance between old and new, and all i can think about is how pretty your smile is in that picture with your sister :)

Liz said...

Clicking through to that old blog post is the first I've read of your big plans. That's huge! I've moved across the country twice in the past four years, and each time I've been a wreck of nerves and what ifs. You two are courageous!

Rea Alducente said...

It might not be the usual Vday celebration but it sounds like fun doing things together. I like packing things.. in a way that you'll get to remember several things from the past.. it makes you think and reminisce. Isn't that amazing!

Home Jobs by MOM said...

At least this is helping you prepare you for your future move. Moving over seas is FAR! lol. I watch house hunters international a lot. Hmm I wonder if you could get on the show? That would be neat. I'm moving about 18 hours away this summer and that's going to be interesting enough on its own I think. I so am looking forward to just being settled. Moving stresses me.

Blond Duck said...

A month long date is even better! After having just moved, I don't envy you.

Angela said...

How romantic. :) But Skyzone sounds so fun! I think you should go anyway. :)

brooke lyn said...

Glad to hear it still went well even if it wasn't the original plan, probably still need to try the jump place soon though !

Mel Caldicott said...

Sounds so exciting!
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