The Random Writings of Rachel: My Other Lives

My Other Lives









My mom often says stuff like, "In another life, I'd be a novelist" or "In another life, I'd write children's Sunday school curricula." This is her way of referencing the fact that there generally isn't enough time in one life to pursue every single thing you could possibly be interested in, but it's okay to acknowledge the paths you might have taken if there were time, or if you'd made different choices along the way.

The other day, I was contemplating a couple different routes I might conceivably have gone in a different lifetime.

In an alternate universe where money and practicality don't matter: I would be a dollhouse designer, builder, and decorator. In this alternate universe, it's quite a feasible and blissful career.

In another life, I spent my senior year of college more academically and less married, managed to wrangle up scholarships/grants/some sort of education money and went on to get my master's degree straight out of college and am working on my PhD. right now, in Linguistics, with plans to become a university professor.

In the life Angel and I might have had if we'd stayed on the same track we were on a year ago, within the next few years, I'd be a stay-at-home mom with a nurse practitioner for a husband and I have a really cool room dedicated to crafting and blogging in my home, which we would own, which would probably be somewhere in the south or west USA.

 In the life where I was much, much braver and more extroverted than I am now, I would have made it a priority to keep acting and theater a part of my life beyond high school--minoring in it in college and at least having the guts to audition for community theater and local films and make time for it in my schedule. I'd be a little actress and Angel would come to all of my plays.

In the life I have, I'm a 22 year old wife of 3.5 years who at the moment swears she'll never put in the money and years of life required to gain the very interesting "pieces of paper" that are post-graduate education. I'm a writer who alternates between blogging, writing long emails to my parents, and working on longer manuscripts for the 2 or 3 projects I have in the works. I'm currently in the process of reducing everything I own to approximately 150 lbs. of stuff and cramming my brain with as many Chinese characters as will fit because I'm about to move to China and teach English. And I wear slightly funny clothes as often as I'm allowed to.

I may daydream about what I might have done if life had been different, but I'm oh-so grateful for the way my life has turned out. Daydreams are one thing...and man, dollhouses and linguistics and crafts and theater are pretty awesome...but I am glad for the choices that brought me here.

What might you have done 'in another life'?

40 comments:

  1. I think that in another life I would have learned to appreciate the body I was given. I've spent years trying to change it, being unhappy with it and just recently became happy.

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  2. To be grateful for where we are now is a wonderful outlook! Although it's fun to play around with "what-if" as well . . . I might have been a scientist in another life, that would've been exhilarating. Thanks for sharing with Visible Monday, love your sequins with denim!

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  3. I would have moved to New York City, traveled through Europe and had more confidence in my artistic ability. And maybe I still will, it's never too late! I've finally mastered the confidence thing! Great outfit, looooooooooooooooove those shoes! :)

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  4. Oh, man, that is a really cool thing to think about. I always thought it another life I'd be an architect (gotta love building houses on the Sims!), an author, or a professional cyclist! ;) I think you've done quite rad things with your current life--but that time thing really is true. I wish we could just switch off jobs, ex: day 1 be an author, day 2 be an artist, day 3 spend all day doing something else, and repeat.

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  5. in another life i'd move to korea and teach english or japan!

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  6. I can so see you acting and doing some theater in THIS life. Do you not? Hmmm, I'd probably do ballet.

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  7. Moving to China to teach English?! How amazing is that?! In another life, I would have accepted the job offer I had in Vietnam 3 years ago...I wonder where that would have taken me :)

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  8. Wow-- this post is so poignant right now… complete "should have/ could have/ would haves" have been running through my mind lately. That being said, my life is beautiful just as it is!

    ~Alexis Grace of North On Harper

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  9. I love this post (and your outfit--those socks are awesome!!). In another life, I would be applying to law schools and working toward a career as a lawyer. And I suppose I still could be, but I'm very happy with the direction God is currently leading my life. :)

    ~Vicki
    decked out in ruffles

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  10. What a great post! I often wish I'd been braver too and kept up with theater and acting. Oh look like a rocker in this outfit!

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  11. Hmmm...there are SO many things I would be in another life! A full time graphic designer, marketer, fitness instructor, etc etc etc...I think if I could go back and change one thing it would be my college degree. A ministry degree is nice, but it doesn't really get you a job. Not in the kinds of churches I've been in, anyway...where the staff isn't paid, haha.

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  12. Great piece of writing! My daughters had asked me last night at the dinner table what I would be doing if I didn't have them yet. Took me a moment to think. I of course told them I couldn't imagine my life without you girls!! But really...who knows, maybe teaching somewhere, nursing off in a war like I had dreamed. who knows!

    Kaitlyn

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  13. I love this post...it is fun to daydream about other options and paths in life. Your dollhouse dream is SO cool! My mom designed and built the dollhouse I grew up with when she was in high school. Personally, I would go back to college and study interior design. Also, I would have pursued singing/dancing more. But, I am happy with where life has taken me. :) I want to continue both of those dreams as a hobby throughout my life. In a reallly farfetched world, I would travel the world as a fashion make-up artist! :)

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  14. Agreed with the theatre part! Oh I miss those days. But in the end had anything changed I may not have Sean and (aside from Jesus), he's the best part of my life, so why change?

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  15. Love those shoes.

    I wish I could be an actor. But it turns out I can't act. Maybe in another life I could.

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  16. I sometimes ponder that as well :) I think that I have always done exactly what I always wanted to do, and I am exactly who I wanted to be. That being said....

    if my husband hadn't come into my life at the ripe age of 14, if we hadn't gotten married when I was 18, and then had a daughter when I was 22.....

    I have no idea what I would have done!

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  17. Your posts always give me something great to think about :) I was just talking about 'in another life' with my friend this morning, but I was being a negative nancy. I like your perspective that one life isn't long enough to pursue everything you have an interest in... and that's okay. Thanks for that reminder, I needed it today :)

    In another life, I would have been a missionary or an exotic veterinarian. I would travel to other parts of the world, see things that others haven't, and help the lost, hurt, and sick.

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  18. Such a very interesting concept, I may have to borrow this from you for a post!

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  19. I think I would have been a teacher... and might still be able to do that!

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  20. I think I would have remained in Europe and lived there. I had never planned on coming back to Canada. My sister had a terrible accident and my parents asked me to come home and help.

    One can get caught up in all the "what might have beens" but it is best to just be thankful for the present : )

    bisous
    Suzanne

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  21. you know i'm waiting on those manuscripts!

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  22. I always love how original your posts are! I think I'd have joined choir or band, or a dance team- something to keep me connected with a small group of people. I guess I can still do that in college!

    xo, Hima
    Hima Hearts

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  23. I would have kept up with the piano and taken voice lessons.
    I should have listened to my dad and studied business and marketing. :/ Gosh, don't you love and hate it when you realize parents know best? :)

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  24. I wish I would have kept doing the piano for sure!! I still play for fun, but I hardly took lessons and ended up just teaching myself!
    www.amemoryofus.blogspot.com

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  25. What a cool idea for a blog post! I may have to borrow this one for the future.. It's kind of fun to imagine what I could have been!!

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  26. Oh I would totally have kept up with theater in another life as well.

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  27. Hmmm...in another life I'd have gone onto graduate degrees in historic preservation after my BA in architectural history and I'd presently be doing restoration/preservation work on the great stone cathedrals of Europe. Or in another life I'd have taken the job offer in Germany I had 10 years ago. I think the cathedrals would win though...

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  28. I feel the same way. In another life, I would have been brave and moved to NYC or LA to give acting a try after high school. But I no matter how much I love theatre, I knew I wasn't willing to sacrifice my whole life to it. Maybe alternate universe Megan is a celebrity, you never know : )

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  29. In another life I would have pursued photojournalism and would have lived abroad for a year or two. Or I would have become an architect and designed the next iconic bridge or skyscraper. Fun post! Thanks for stopping by my space! Glad I got to visit you. :)

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  30. You look quite adventure-girl charming ... socks, sparkles, denim ... great outfit for considering other lives. At my advanced age, I can only hope that the old maxim about it never being too late is true. It's almost too painful to consider paths not taken, but I console myself with the idea of infinite dimensions. I'd love it if the theorists were right when they say that if you can imagine it, it has occurred in another dimension. Perhaps I would have accomplished all I've wanted to!

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  31. Oh this post got me thinking!! If you were a dollhouse designer, could I be your dollhouse tester?? I could EASILY spend the rest of my life playing with dolls!

    Hmmmm I never think about other lives. I'm finally so happy with mine and often think "life is LONG, there's time for it all!"

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  32. We all have a good time daydreaming of our 'other lives', but we have to remember to make the most of the one we have! I think you are pretty good at making the most of life, so keep at it girl!

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  33. I love this, Rachel! Everyone has their own path in life. Everyone is so different and that's what makes the world go round. I'm excited for you to move to China! I missed that somehow. Praying for you and your husband to have a safe move!

    P.S. In another life, I'd be a lawyer or and actress. My family swears that was meant to be my path in life. haha

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  34. Love this post. Quite thought provoking. A few years ago I would have said living abroad, married, with kids. But now I don't have to say that. Thanks for stopping by Drinking the Whole Bottle!

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  35. Absolutely love this post.
    In another life, I'd be a nomad, which I am still trying to pursue now hahaaha...

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  36. I really loved this post, Rachel!

    Hmm, it gets my imagination going.

    I think in another life, I'd be:

    A popstar
    A stand-up comedian/actress
    A doctor
    A television show host
    A television show writer
    A Jungle Cruise skipper at Disney World

    A lot of entertainment stuff, I see, haha. Who knows? Maybe "another life" will just be later on in this one. But I've found as I've gotten older that I want less of the spotlight. I'm content to be more behind-the-scenes. Maybe that will change? :)

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    1. Oooh, and add psychologist/counselor to this list, too!

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  37. I often think about what my life would have been if this or that had or hadn't happened. I could be working in publishing in LA or NYC. I could still be living in Portland near all my best friends and my mama. I could be wandering the world, teaching English in various countries. It's nice to dream, but I'm with you...I love my life and I'm so grateful for who I am today.

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