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16 July 2014

Compromise

 
Sponges.

I don't understand it, but Angel likes sponges. My family never used sponges for cleaning or for washing dishes when I was growing up. We used washcloths, which I think are a better option because they are washable and reusable and they don't sit there staying damp all day and collecting germs.

But Angel likes sponges. Not only does he like sponges, but he likes them so much that the only way he'll wash dishes is if there is a sponge to wash them with, rather than a washcloth. I do not like washcloths enough to insist that all dishes in our house be washed with a washcloth, because that would mean I would wash all of the dishes. So, I always make sure that we keep a good supply of sponges handy. And I also make sure to change sponges and throw away the old ones before they get gross. I'm slightly suspicious that if it were up to Angel, he's just keep using the same sponge till it fell apart.

Sometimes adult men remind me very much of the men I knew in college. And sometimes, a little compromise is part of the privileges of being married.

What have you chosen to compromise on?

35 comments :

  1. Hahah I totally understand! Hey I didn't know if you knew this but you can update your blog by e-mail! In your settings there is a special e-mail address that you can send mail to and it will post what you write to your blog! Just an FYI for China!!!!

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  2. I have to use a sponge too. My mom has a new thing for using a washcloth and I went crazy the last couple times I was home. If the sponge isn't falling apart yet, you can microwave it to kill the germs...or so Pinterest told me.

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  3. love this example of compromise :) we are the opposite - i like sponges & he likes washcloths! so we keep both around too!!

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  4. Haha this is a simple but really great example! I actually grew up using a washcloth for the dishes (and a "green scrubbie" when needed) but a boy changed my ways haha.

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  5. I'm with Angel on the sponges! To me, washcloths just set there damp and smelly. You can buy sponges now where food won't stick to them, which makes them a lot better than before. If my sponge gets yucky before it needs to be replaced, I throw it in the top drawer of the dish washer and let that bad boy sanitize it for me : )

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  6. I don't think I've known anyone who DIDN'T use sponges until just now....though I agree on the germiness. I will run the sponge through the dishwasher every so often for that reason.

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  7. I run the sponge through this dishwasher to to get it all fresh again! I've never washed dishes with a washcloth but I know people who do that!

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  8. I'm with Madison - I run them through the dishwasher to make them last longer. I actually got the idea from Oprah - who knew she was budget conscious?! I think marriage is a series of compromises... at least the ones that work are!

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  9. This such a perfect example of compromise! Thank you for sharing your thoughts!

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  10. We use sponges but I'd be okay with using wash cloths. I wish I had a dishwasher!!

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  11. Milk! Brandon HAS to have skim milk!

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  12. Too funny! I'm a washcloth girl as well, but my husband will only wash dishes if he has a spongey bottle-cleaner thing. (I have no idea what they are officially called.) But hey, if it means he washes the dishes instead of me, I'll compromise on that one!

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  13. I feel like Jordan and I have to compromise a lot. But we both love using those sponge brush things, so at least there's that! :) We compromise on the temperature of our apt. He likes it cold, and I like it hot :)

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  14. I like sponges too but I totally get that they're not sanitary. I should invent bacteria killing sponges. ;-)

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  15. okay so I confess that I hide my sponge when people come over and here's why: some people think it's nasty to wash with a sponge and I'm with Angel on this one, I love it! I can wash using something else but I PREFER a sponge. I think Josh and I have compromised on using a sheet. I seriously hate using a sheet at night and he loves it. So I compromise and I start out with the sheet but there's no guarantee it stays on as I'm sleeping. By the way, I just wanted to let you know that I'm seriously praying for you guys on your soon to be BIG MOVE! It hit me like 2 days ago and I thought "whoa, this is seriously a big deal what they are doing..." So I'm praying for safe travels, lots of memories, and guidance for when you guys get there!

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  16. I so hear you on this issue. I have heard so many bad things about sponges. I make sure that it dries out between uses. I also grew up using a dishcloth as well. I think they are easier to use but my husband also prefers the sponge, so we use both.

    There have been so many compromises after 23 years together it is hard to know where to start. I can tell you the one thing I didn't compromise on, when I met my husband he smoked. I told him then and there that I thought it was a disgusting habit and that I had no intention of kissing a guy that tasted like an ashtray. Needless to say, he stopped smoking and the rest is history. ; )

    bisous
    Suzanne

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  17. Hahaha! So funny that Angel will not wash the dishes unless he has a sponge.
    I grew up using sponges, and they are just more comfortable to me. But I try to keep them sanitized (you can pour white vinegar or some other type of disinfectant on it and microwave the sponge for 2 minutes, which will kill germs for when the sponge isn't in need of throwing out yet, but you want to sanitize it).

    Tyler refuses to wash the dishes if I am in the kitchen while he is in there. He claims that I am "a busybody and always get in the way." It's probably a true statement since I'm always opening cabinet doors and asking him to shift to the right or the left to do something else.

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  18. Oh my gosh. SPONGES. I hate how they NEVER get squeezed out and then they smell bad. So, yes, yes, yes!

    Compromise. Well, it's taught me a lot about how fickle and stubborn (all at the same time) I can be and how important it is to remember that I'm not the only person in this marriage/house/world. Seems easy enough when it's said, but then to act on it. Ugh. :)

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  19. Wash clothes make SO much more sense since they are reusable, but I'll be honest - we're totally sponge people. I share your perspective that it's better to compromise and be okay with things being done differently than you'd do them rather than you have to do it all by yourself. :)

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  20. Scott likes sponges too. Weirdos. They're just germ magnets. I wash the dishcloth twice a week or so and call it good. Plus, dishcloths are less destructible. I always have a drawerful.

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  21. I compromise on tomato sauce. Now as funny as that sounds, my boyfriend is Italian and refuses to eat tomato sauce out of a jar; it has to be homemade. While I love to cook, there is not always enough time to whip up a batch of sauce, so I have learned to take some time to make a big batch and to save it so that I can use it on the fly!

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  22. We called them dish rags growing up. My husband is 100% sponges and I am dish rags. I don't think I even owned a sponge until I got married. What I liked about the dish rags is we threw them in the laundry once a week. Of course that was back when we washed everything on hot. I moved to the sponge camp once married. My husband thought my dish rag was gross. I throw the sponge in the microwave for a couple of minutes every time I use it. I also have a dishwasher which I didn't have prior to being married either.

    I'm pretty flexible on most things, but the one thing I wouldn't budge on was carrying a credit card balance.

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  23. Joel LOVES sponges and would use one- but I absolutely vetoed that. We compromised on using dish cloths and scrub brushes. Dish cloths still gross me out but not as bad.

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  24. OMG. My husband is a sponge man too (I never thought I would write those words...). I'm from a wash cloth fam too. I've been using the stupid sponges but I boil them every now and then because the idea of bacteria freaks me out!

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  25. Angels quirks are so funny! I prefer washing with a sponge because I feel like it's easier and gets the dishes scrubbed better, but I use a washcloth for the same reason you like them. I know it gets washed frequently so there are less germs and they are reusable.

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  26. This is too funny! Marriage brings out the most hilarious quirks in us!

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  27. We have that same pack of sponges! Haha, I've heard if you microwave a sponge for 10 seconds it kills the germs. I'll let you decide whether or not that's true. My husband loves sponges too. I prefer brushes, because I can wash the brushes. We scrub all of our dishes before putting them in the dishwasher, though. Otherwise grime can stick to them. So I'm not terribly worried as I feel the dishwasher kills all the sponge germs.

    Our big compromise is that my husband and I have VERY different taste in furniture and decorations. We each have our own home office, which we are allowed to do whatever I want with. I'm not allowed to nag him about dirty dishes or video game posters in his office, and his not allowed to get upset about craft supplies spread across the floor or flower decorations every where in my office. We compromise on the decoration every where else in the house, making it something we will both like, but we each have our own little haven where we can do whatever we want.

    http://howtomakehome.blogspot.com

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  28. Oh my gosh, this is such a debate in my house! I think sponges are germ infested grossness and my husband swears by them. This would be one thing I definitely don't compromise on. He gave up the sponges probably because I complained so much! I'm definitely a washcloth kind of person :)

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  29. throw those suckers in the dishwasher or the microwave to zap the germs!! i love a good sponge....but mainly bc they come in really cute designs - ha!

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  30. Jordan wanted to use sponges when we got married, but I refused. I didn't even buy them. I explained why washcloths were cleaner and that was that. Now, he'll freak out if the washcloth isn't clean enough! :)

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  31. My mum has always washed dishes with washcloths and I became the one who would only wash the dishes if I had a sponge...

    (She says as there is a big pile of dishes not done, and there's a sponge by the sink.)

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  32. I compromise on bedding. I want a feather quilt, he gets hot. But after 13 years of marriage...time to get a feather quilt! Found you at SITS.

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  33. Ha! This is a cute example of compromise. The husband and I seem to have to "compromise" on a little bit of everything, so I can't pick just one. lol. Cute piece!
    New friend visiting from SITS :)

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  34. There is not too terribly much we have had to compromise on yet. Actually, there is a current battle of toothpaste brands, so we are buying two. Yes, I think it is insane, but I refuse to give up my Crest for Colgate. Not yet.

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