The Random Writings of Rachel: Missing Milestones

Missing Milestones

It's my sister Lizzy's 21st birthday today!

Just hangin' out with Jerusalem back when she lived in Israel for 3 months when she was 19.

Missing milestones is a natural part of my family's lifestyle, and always will be. For me, the milestones I hate missing the most are the ones that naturally lend themselves to parties. If you know anything about me, you probably know that I like to throw a good party.

So, today, I thought I'd talk about what I'd do if I were there, with you, Lizzy, to celebrate today.

First of all, I know you'd be so happy to see me, since I've been gone for over 3 months now. Surprise!

I'd try my best to declare today a national holiday so that you didn't have to work and go to class. If I didn't succeed, I hope that at least your boss would give you a birthday cake in honor of the day.

Once all of that boring "real life" stuff was done with, we both know that birthdays require the wearing of lovely new clothes. I suggest this Modcloth dress. It's your green and I can picture you wearing it already:


And while were talking about imaginary Modcloth dresses, I might as well pick out what I'd wear for the party. What about this one? Festive and eminently suitable for the occasion. Plus, I mean, we have to look as different as humanly possible whenever we're together so that people don't confuse us:


I'd assign Isaac to making Korean dishes for dinner--bulgogi beef and kimbab especially. I don't have experience in cooking these dishes, which is why I delegate.

I'd delegate cleaning the bathrooms and vacuuming the house to Angel. He's really so good at both tasks. We can't have the birthday girl doing chores, but you have to have the house looking awesome for company.

(Because we're inviting ALL your friends over, of course, I know how important they are to you!)

I'd decorate--we'd have coordinating muddy brown napkins, burgundy paper plates, and cream-colored plastic silverware. As much as those color kill me, today is for you. I'd make up a bunch of cookies, because cookies are better than cake, and I'd set out all sorts of fixins' so that when your friends came by, everyone could decorate their own cookies with frosting and candies and sprinkles and glitter. I know they're the crowd who, although being over 21, would not scoff at fun of this sort. I'd decorate a cookie for you and it would bear a special message: "21 is not actually old."

(It would have to be a rather large cookie.)

We'd eat our Korean dinner, with tea and coffee to accompany it, and you and your buddies would retire to the basement to play while me and my boys/minions cleaned up the dinner. I'd arrive downstairs just in time to lead everyone in a rousing "Hot Sauce Game."

We'd all stay up way too late, but if you can't do that when you're 21, when can you? Love ya, Liz!

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Guys, my sister, for this birthday, is asking for recommendations to shape her year of being 21. What book or movie or fun/important experience or goal could you suggest to her? I know that most of my audience is over 21, so what sorts of things do you think would make for an extraordinary year at this season of her life? That Lizzy of mine is anything but average.

27 comments:

  1. To Lizzy -

    Congratulations on turning 21! At 24, I'm here to tell you that the best is yet to come. Enjoy this time!

    I recently read a book by Lauren Graham that was a really fun, easy, and completely inspiring read. I definitely recommend it. It's called, "Someday, Someday Maybe."

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  2. Happy birthday, Lizzy! Sounds like an awesome hypothetical party :)

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  3. Happy birthday Lizzy! Sounds like a marvelous party Rachel! :D

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  4. Can I bring the japchae? :)

    I would say: Have a blast this year. Indulge in good cheeses, cuts of meat and wine (if it is something you are open to). Meanwhile, take your time working on long-term goal. A little bit —a lot of the time— goes a long way.

    Happy Birthday, Lizzy!

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  5. Such a fun party!!! And I love that dress... can I steal it from Lizzy?? It's hard being away from people we love, especially when we want to celebrate with them!

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  6. Happy Birthday Lizzy!!! Aaaannnndddd I'm not 21 yet, so I guess I don't count... =P

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  7. what a sweet post :) i laughed out loud when i read about you wanting to make her birthday into a national holiday :) and the party sounds fun! cookie decorating and pretty dresses and angel cleaning the bathrooms? count me in! okay, okay, i'll clean the bathrooms with angel :) and as for recommendation - maybe Walden Pond?

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  8. Happy Birthday, Lizzy!!
    21 is a good time, enjoy it, don't take it for granted ;) Love hard this year, and always.
    Laugh hard, smile always, and indulge, because you're 21!
    p.s Can I get in on the bulgogi beef and kimbab?
    XOXO

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  9. This would be the best and sweetest party! Happy birthday, Lizzy! Enjoy this time in your life! The world is at your fingertips, and the possibilities are endless. You just need to take a deep breath and go. Oh, and always keep that childlike wonderment. It's what makes life tolerable during the hard times and even more wonderful during the good. I'd recommend reading anything and everything from Somerset Maugham (Razor's Edge, Of Human Bondage) and Joseph Conrad (Romance: A Novel).

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  10. Such a sweet post! I love how different you two seem to be but that you embrace that! Happy Birthday to her! 21 is such an awesome age--I suggest she does something she's never done before!

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  11. What a sweet birthday party. I hope you can replicate this when you do go home for a visit. Happy Birthday, Lizzy!

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  12. What a lovely post! Great idea! [Just randomly noticed this pin - http://thoughtsaboutnothing.com/10-ted-talks-every-20-something-should-watch/ - I've seen a few of the talks and I would highly recommend them!]....Happy Birthday to her!

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  13. Oh, and how about doing 21 things she's afraid of doing (I wish I'd started doing this earlier!)

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  14. Aw, what a sweet post! I would say that one of things I enjoyed the most when I was 21 was traveling! I got to travel to London for a month that year and experience a different country. Love the dresses and that party sounds like a blast!

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  15. Happy birthday to your precious sister! I'm so sorry you're not able to celebrate with her.

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  16. Happy birthday to your sister! Wow...21...such a wonderful age. Really anything is possible. Just enjoy it.

    bisous
    Suzanne

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  17. Happy birthday to your sister! Great dress picks!
    Melanie @ meandmr.com

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  18. Aw I'm so sorry you're missing out on her day BUT I think this post is wonderful. Happy birthday to your sister!

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  19. This is so cute, Rachel. Being abroad during milestones is a huge challenge for those we love! I hope she had a wonderful birthday! :)

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  20. Such a sweet post for your sister! Happy Birthday to her! Both those dresses would be great picks for her, I especially think the second one is super festive!

    I think 21 is a very adventurous year, so do a once-in-a-lifetime type of thing, and also appreciate those you love and are close to! After 21, life starts getting busier, and sometimes more predictable and less flexible, so doing exciting things and doing them with those you love are the most important things!

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  21. Happy birthday to your sister! Hope her day is fab!
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  22. To always be proud to be anything but average and keep her aspirations high. :) She'll do fine she has a lovely family backing her up! Hope she had a wonderful birthday and take care Rachel! -Iva

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  23. Love this post!! Such a sweet sister you are. :) my favorite book lately is Love Does by Bob Goff. An inspirational read for sure!

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  24. This is really so sweet! I know how hard it is to miss milestones... (I had to work the day my first nephew was born) It really is hard, but I'm sure she read this and realized exactly how much you care about her.

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  25. 21 is such a fun age. Be responsible, but have FUN. This time in your life will only come once, so relax and enjoy it as much as you can. I think a good goal for this year is to make 5 new friends. You can never have too many friends, especially when you're 21! #SITSSharefest

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  26. What a fun way to celebrate your sister when you can't be with her!!

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