SOCIAL MEDIA

23 March 2015

Half a Decade

Today, I'm remembering the day my parents gave Angel and I a Skype "thumbs up" to officially begin courting. Five years ago. Older and wiser people, bear with me. Five years may not be all that long, but it's still more than 1/5th of my entire lifespan.

 Photo taken two days before we were official. The awkwardness is palpable as we sit on the floor in my grandparents' living room.

In reality, we could say that the beginning was sometime before that infamous March date--what about my first day in college, Sept. 2, 2008, when we first crossed paths? We didn't even exchange words, so that doesn't count. Should I count from the day after Angel's graduation from college, May 24, 2009, the infamous first kiss? Well, that was a non-starter since I moved out of the country the next day. December 25, 2009 was the day Angel called me to wish me a "Merry Christmas!", and could possibly count as the beginning of something, since he called me an average of once per day from that date until we married (relatives were scandalized by my cell phone bill). But March 23, 2010--that's what I count from, because that was the day my parents gave us their approval (a requirement in my family).

I've been talking a lot of dates, and a lot of numbers in this post, so I figured I'd continue the trend with more numbers:

2 homes in two different countries

2 bikes purchased.

1 grill

1 awesome bed (+2 mediocre beds)

3 roadtrips to Texas

2 new laptops (the ones we had pre-marriage died slow, painful deaths)

7 cats

4 times Angel has flown to Malaysia

1 trip to Hong Kong Disneyland

3 jobs for Angel (Texas Nurse, Michigan Nurse, English Conversation Teacher)

1 real job for Rachel (not counting tutor, ironing girl and professor's assistant)

2 semesters of grad school (Angel)

2 minor league baseball games attended

1 argument resulting in the purchasing of a dollhouse by Angel for Rachel

4 kayaking outings (always a tandem kayak)

4 added family members (2 baby cousins, 1 sis-in-law, 1 nephew)

1 book, self-published

2 anonymous prank letters mailed to loved ones

9 dentist appointments each (I actually don't boycott dentists, who would have guessed?)

0 tandem bike adventures (something Angel has always wanted to do, but never succeeded in doing)

3 houseplants (Christmas Cactus, unidentified plant, mint plant)

I'm finding that the best memories aren't easy to capture numerically. How many hours of sleep have we lost because we were too busy talking the night away? How many bonfires have I danced around, Jack Sparrow-style, while Angel stoically reminded me to be careful? How many plates of nachos al carbon have we split?

I'm not that great at counting.

 Picture taken 2 days ago.

In my teens, I found very idea of marriage incredibly frightening. I don't know why the thought of marrying Angel was never scary to me. From that very beginning, 5 years ago this week, when I dropped him off at the airport and he told me he hated PDA and I said "What's PDA?" and then he kissed me in front of all the airport strangers 15 seconds after explaining the acronym...it's always felt like we're just two good friends who decided that getting married sounded like the best possible choice. For us, it is.

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P.S. For those who haven't been reading this blog since back when I was a starry-eyed newlywed, you can catch the one time I actually told the whole story chronologically in three parts here: 1, 2, 3.
Veronica Lee Burns said...

This post is so cute! I love it! Congrats. Sweet memories for you to always remember.

Ana Isabel Munguia said...

Wow :) So cute!! My parents also had to 'approve' the union, lol. When you get married in Mexico it's a custom to ask for the daugthers hand, my husband is a foreigner so he had to everything by the book. He passed all the challenges in a great way I might add. Seems like you guys are a good match, hope your love only growths stronger and more beautiful for the rest of the decade!

Marina said...

Congrats! Your story is so cute and you two look so adorable together!

Anonymous said...

Congrats! I wish I had kept better track of more dates! Although I did keep a keepsake box of tickets, flowers, and other collectibles !

Bethany Carson said...

Congrats on 6 years!

Ashley said...

Congrats! Such a sweet post!

Anonymous said...

Congratulations Rachel & Angel! It's so nice to hear the story of how you guys met (and about Rachel's parents approval hehe.) My husband and I don't have particularly conservative families, but he still Skyped my parents to ask them if we could get married. I thought it was kinda sweet. :)

Bekah Walsh said...

Ah yes, your story still brings a smile to my face. Happy approval anniversary!

Funning Up My Life said...

So cute! Congrats!! :) 5 years is an achievement - it shows you truly love each other!

Brittany Bergman said...

What a fun way to commemorate these last 5 years! Isn't amazing how much life we do together when you stop and really take stock of it all? This is my favorite part: "It's always felt like we're just two good friends who decided that getting married sounded like the best possible choice." I love that -- I think the best marriages are built on a foundation of friendship, trust, and respect. Sounds like you guys have found something special! Happy courtship-iversary!

Suzanne Carillo said...

Congrats! It is an idea that is utterly foreign to me to have to have my parent's approval prior to dating. Although I did always secretly "want" them to like my choices it was never something I thought about. A totally different take on things. I'm so happy it worked out so well for you.

bisous
Suzanne
http://www.suzannecarillo.com

Olivia Schwab said...

This is so awesome!! I loved reading about your story!!

Julia said...

Aww, Happy 5 years! I love how you described your relationship in this post, so sweet!

Erin said...

Awww this is adorable and such a cute way to document.

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Kari said...

Congrats!!! That is so wonderful to look back on things and see how much life you've experienced together:)

Abby said...

Congratulations on five years! Twenty years from now, these blog posts will be so special to you.

Angela Tolsma said...

cute post!!
Congrats on five years!!

Angi said...

Happy 5 years!! Isaiah and I just had our 5th wedding anniversary last week. It's crazy how long - yet short - 5 years can feel.

Jennifer Prod said...

"it's always felt like we're just two good friends who decided that getting married sounded like the best possible choice. For us, it is." - i feel the same way <3 such a lovely post!

Daisy @ Simplicity Relished said...

Congratulations!!! Loved reading more about your relationship and what you've been through together :)

Jaime Bacon said...

You two look like such a sweet couple! Congratulations!! :D

Katie Cook said...

Hooray!! Loved reading this!

Nathana Clay said...

Congrats! You two make a great couple! Beautiful post. :)

LauraEhlers said...

How wonderful! This is how a marriage should feel! Congratulations!

Monica said...

Aw, you guys seem like such a lovely couple! Congrats on the 5 yrs of courtship! My husband and I started officially dating at the very end of 2009 and married in the spring of 2011. How soon after courtship did you get married? And I can totally relate to the idea of marriage seeming scary except for with our husbands! :)

Julianne said...

I love "how we fell in love" stories. I would have to say my favorite number is the 7 cats...particularly given what you named them! I too shared Angel's infinity for riding a tandem bike, and accomplished it in college. I think it is one of those things worth repeating with a husband though, especially one with Angel's sense of humor...

chelsea @ the new wifestyle said...

this is SO sweet! i always love insight into other people's relationships and it seems like you have a great one full of adventure! you are also the first couple i've heard of that has successfully done tandem kayaks! my grandparents gave us wedding advice to always get a single person kayak ha! i was in a 2 person kayak once with a friend when i was younger and it ended terribly...cheers to you two!

Anonymous said...

Awwwww, so so cute! And so is that headband in the second picture!

Laura Malone said...

Congratulations! This was such a lovely post to read and has brightened my day!

meandmr.com said...

Happy birthday! There are always pros and cons to getting older!
Melanie @ meandmr.com

Erica said...

The first photo really is sweet, and only a little awkward :) I love your relationship by the numbers!

rae t said...

This was such a cute post :) it is always wonderful to read about happy couples.

Rae | love from berlin

Tayler Morrell said...

So cute! Justin and I have known each other for 3.5 years now and have been married for 2.5, but sometimes it seems much, much longer than that!

Paige @ Reasons to Come Home said...

Such a fun way to document! I'm not even sure I could count some of the numbers Cory and I have experienced things over the past almost 10 years!

Purfylle said...

Those half decades fly by faster and faster the older you get so enjoy every moment. Congratulations on your anniversary.

Miranda Myrabev said...

awwww such a cute post, congratulations to both of you and fyi you're braver than me I have not seen my dentist in 3 years now

Kay R. said...

Congrats on 5 years. I love the airport story and that you didn't know what PDA was. :)

Anonymous said...

I have to say tandem bike adventures are scary, so if that is the reason you are avoiding it maybe you should avoid it a little longer. :-) I love all the numbers, it makes it easier to get to know you. :-)