01 September 2015

When We Were First Married vs. Now

We just passed the 7th anniversary of the first time we met (not particularly romantic, guys, we didn't start going out till a year and a half later). We're quickly approaching 5 years of marriage. Lately I've started thinking about how our lives and expectations have changed over the past half decade.

Our first day of marriage.

Now. Well, a month ago at a friend's wedding. We don't take selfies often, apparently.

Let's look at a few comparisons...

When we were first married...Angel was a nurse in a Burn Unit and I was a Junior in college.
Now? He's an ESL teacher with a nursing license and I'm an ESL teacher with a cosmetology license.

When we were first married...Angel worked 7pm-7am night shifts, three nights a week.
Now? He works 6 mornings a week, and maybe 1 or 2 afternoons.

When we were first married...Our favorite date restaurants were El Arriero (Mexican) or Arnie's (American breakfast food)
Now? Chili's (Tex-Mex) or Sri Ananda Bahwan (Indian)

When we were first married...We lived in a rural farmhouse with several acres of lawn.
Now? In an apartment complex--no lawn, no garden, just a solitary mint plant.

When we were first married...Angel had no intention of ever learning a word of Mandarin Chinese, in spite of the fact that I was majoring in the language.
Now? His survival Mandarin is pretty decent (he loved living in China and wants to go back to visit) and he's learning a few words of Bahasa Malaysia to help him out in case of need.

When we were first married...I cooked supper nearly every day--fried potatoes and eggs, chili, baked chicken, baked salmon,etc.
Now? I still cook supper nearly every day--fried rice, chicken fajitas, fried chicken and mashed potatoes, veggies and rice, etc.

When we were first married...I exercised in my P.E. class at college, which was a 'games' class that semester--we played tag and dodgeball and stuff like that. Best 1 credit ever. Angel was too tired from the night shift schedule, he didn't exercise at the time.
Now? I exercise to Youtube videos in our little computer room and Angel goes running early in the mornings and plays basketball or soccer with friends.

When we were first married...we didn't watch tv, because we didn't have an antenna, and Netflix wasn't a thing for us yet. If we wanted to watch something, we rented a DVD from Blockbuster.
Now? We don't have a television set, but we watch shows on our laptops together. We source most of our DVDs from my parents' collection.

When we were first married...we owned two older cars.
Now? We have one brand-new car.

When we were first married...we were still deciding where to go on our honeymoon. We ended up choosing Mammoth Cave National Park.
Now? I have yet to plan our 5th anniversary trip, but Angel gets a week off work in December, so we definitely ought to go somewhere! Cameron Highlands? Kuala Lumpur? Singapore?

When we were first married...we talked about someday moving to Kentucky.
Now? We dream of living in Malaysia forever.

When we were first seemed part of a far-off, post-college future.
Now? We're surprised we don't have them already. Seriously. Kids, where are you?

When we were first married...we were the only married couple among our total of 8 combined siblings--and all of them were between the ages of 20 and 3, so that wasn't surprising.
Now? Angel's brother is married with a kid, and 3 of my siblings are older than I was at our wedding--plenty old enough to start getting teased about potential spouses, although they don't seem to appreciate that very much.

When we were first married...we moved in to a mostly-empty house and spent months gradually accumulating, through either purchase or hand-me-downs, furniture and appliances.
Now? Funny enough, we're in the exact same spot once more, with plenty of room and not a lot of stuff to fill it with! The apartment is furnished with hand-me-downs from parents, along with whatever else we've bought or been given so far. :) I like all the space.

When we were first married...I had no idea that it was my husband's life dream to own a mascot-style bear costume.
Now? I know that, and so many more, and weirder, facts about him.

When we were first married...I wasn't a blogger. Gasp. I know, right? That whole lovey-dovey time was entirely skipped.
Now? I've been blogging so long I can't quite imagine not blogging at all. Writing with a pen on paper, what's that?


  1. My favorite p.e. class was square dancing!

    Lives and expectations certainly do change over time. Fun, right!

  2. It really is so interesting to see the differences between when we were first married and now even though it's only barely been 3 years!

  3. Aww this is so cute! I love that your guys are working towards big dreams together :) Malaysia? So awesome!

  4. What a cute post! I can't wait to see how my life with my husband will change over time!

  5. What a cute post idea! :] And yay for that mint plant (definitely better than nothing!)!

    I can definitely relate with the survival Mandarin! I took a couple classes in college, but haven't had a chance to speak it in ages (my family speaks Cantonese, and...let's just say that there are pretty much no Asians where I am and people often come over to me just to ask where I'm from)!

  6. LOL, the bear costume! Well, now you know what to get Angel for that ultimate surprise gift!

    1. Hahaha and then I realized the text was a link and that it's said and done. Too funny!

  7. what a neat post idea! can't believe all those changes happened in just 5 years!

  8. Wow. Exercising to Youtube video's...I never thought of that but that's a great idea!!!

  9. What a fun post! Happy anniversary :)

  10. I love this! It's crazy how things change over time, especially for you two!

  11. yay 5th anniversary and trip! I know you'll have a great time!

  12. What a fun way to see how your relationship has changed and grown! I hope I can look at Georgia the way you look at Malaysia and never want to leave... hoping it grows on me!

  13. I love this post so much! Happy 5th anniversary!

  14. Awesome! This is such a sweet post! Congratulations on your five years!

  15. How interesting!!! I'm going to have to do that one day when I get married :-D

  16. This is such a cute idea. Next year my husband and I will celebrate our 5th anniversary too and I like this idea of comparing the 'then' and 'now.' I may have to do this when the time comes :)

  17. I love this post! Such a great idea. Happy anniversary! :)

  18. You have changed but some things have stayed the same. Have you considered indoor gardening since you love to cook so much?

  19. What a great post, Rachel! You still look so happy together! (And "eek!": children?! That makes even *me* so happy!!).....Helen xxx P.S. Graphic tees? Definitely 'to graphic tee' look FAB in those the turquoise and red highlights!!!

  20. My husband and I have been married a little over two years. It's amazing how much expectations can change even after a year. I know for us, living in a different country (Mexico) for our first year made a huge difference in testing and maturing our relationship. It was so fun to see your changes actually mapped out! It made me think about our own changes in expectations.

  21. Aww this is so fun! I loved seeing all the changes! I may have to borrow this idea. (And it looks like I'm not the only commenter who wants to haha)

  22. What a fun walk down memory lane! We're going on 4 months of marriage so this will be fun to do in a few years! Congrats!

  23. love the compare and contrast! and yay 5 year anniversary twinning! i chuckled aloud at your 'kids, where are you?" comment! my husband is so ready for kids and i' not.

  24. This is such a cool post! I should do something like this for our anniversary in a few weeks.

  25. What a fun look back on five years! It's amazing how time goes by with some things changing and others staying the same :)

  26. I love all these comparisons! A mascot-bear costume? That's so funny! You guys live an adventurous life, and it's exciting to see how you two have embraced the changes in life, growing together! Mammoth Cave is an interesting honeymoon spot! Did you all stay in that hotel nearby or did you guys camp out? Mammoth Cave is such a fun place to go!

  27. This is one awesome marriage post. Love it!

  28. That's so wonderful! Congrats on 5 years of marriage and many more to come. :) No immediate plan for kids yet? After 5 years I'm sure everyone is nosey and asking. :) Funny how you realize the changes over the years. Wow so Malaysia for good?? Have a great one Rachel!! -Iva

  29. Congratulations on your 5th anniversary! How exciting!
    Thank you for sharing this was a joy to read!
    Many blessings to you and your family!

  30. Great way to look back over the last 5 years! Things certainly have changed for y'all!

  31. Wow! This is so neat. I should do this when my husband and I are married for 5 years in 2 more years! Such a fun and thoughtful post!


  32. It's awesome that you are doing life together though! I love it!

  33. It's awesome that you are doing life together though! I love it!

  34. I love this Then and Now look! Dan and I haven't been married that long, but I might do a post like this next summer, which will mark 5 years from when we first met.

  35. I like this post so much (and your fun, cultural mashup life)! I am also in a cross-cultural marriage - a U.S. girl married to a Guatemalan immigrant. Our 8th anniversary is coming up in a couple weeks, and this post is inspiring me to maybe write something similar! :)

  36. The days of our lives lived one day at a time with the Lord. Nice to look back and be grateful for all He shows and teaches us. So nice to visit.