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03 December 2015

I never thought... (5 years of marriage)

I had no idea.

Though it seems to happen in books a lot, whenever I've met someone for the first time, I've never had a foreshadowing feeling of whether they would be just a fleeting presence in my life, or whether they'd end up a lifer.

I've moved plenty. Many people have come and gone in my everyday life. I'm not the best at keeping in touch, but I'm not the worst, either. Sometimes you can stay in touch with old friends even if you go a decade without seeing them in person. Sometimes you can't.

I never could predict who would end up being part of my life for the long haul, and if I could have, I would have predicted it all wrong.


{Definitely not a wedding photo. If you saw my annual anniversary photos post, these are a couple extra shots from that day}

Because I never would have picked Angel for a lifer. A once-upon-a-time college buddy, yeah. The kind of person you might look up on Facebook every year or two to see what they're up to these days, sure. Of course, that's less likely when their last name is really hard to spell, as Angel's is.

We're from different worlds. Different generations. I started college with the idea that yeah, I had to get married someday, but I was 17 and not really interested in boys in general, and had been severely warned by my grandfather to stay away from all of them. But I needed friends, and I couldn't afford to be too standoffish, so I baked cookies, and went to Bible studies, and played board games.

Angel could have so easily been a fleeting presence. He could have been just that one guy who stalked me a little bit during freshman year and told me he didn't want me to leave...and then after I left, he could have moved away and disappeared and never been seen again.

He did move away. He had no reason to come back. I didn't expect him to come back. I expected that gigantic white smile and those fierce black eyebrows and the smell of CK One cologne and his habit of walking up behind you and saying, "Excuse me, Ma'am." in a scary deep voice to fade into distant memory.

That could have easily happened. All the stories I've told you of him through the years--they could have so easily never happened. Except for the fact that he didn't find the life of a bachelor living with his parents and eating all the Panda Express he could possibly hold quite as fulfilling as he'd always thought it would be. And a teenage me who when faced with a guy who started talking about marriage seemingly out of the blue...suddenly didn't find it so unthinkable.


And suddenly the guy who I thought would turn into a distant memory of a long-ago college friend turned into the guy who carried my baby sister on his shoulders when she was a toddler and the guy who tells her creepy stories now. He teases my other sisters about boys and talks about computers and bills and boring stuff like that with my dad.

I don't know what happened. I don't know what gave me the guts to say "Yes." I don't even really know what made my parents like Angel so much in that infamous Skype interview. When I think about it, I can't really figure out how we, of all people, ended up together--the awkward, gangly genius and the funny guy who gets along with everybody.

I don't often get all mushy, but I've been married 5 years today and I'm allowed to. What I do know, beyond a shadow of a doubt, is that we make each other better. Both of us are more courageous and more diligent and more passionate than we would be without the other. To this day I miss him like crazy during the hours he's at work, and I run to kiss him the minute he gets home. I never thought I'd be the kind of girl to fall head over heels in love...but we've already established the fact that I'm pretty bad at predicting the future.

39 comments :

  1. This is the sweetest post, Rachel:) Congratulations on 5 years of marriage!

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  2. This is so well written and so beautiful! I've got goosebumps over here!

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  3. This is so well written and so beautiful! I've got goosebumps over here!

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  4. Loved this! : ) Made me feel all warm inside.

    bisous
    Suzanne

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  5. So cute! You and Angel are really in love!

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  6. Such a happy story, makes us feel all warm and fuzzy inside. Congratulations on your 5 years... may your next 5 years be just as happy.

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  7. A great story and Happy Anniversary. Wishes for 5 more and beyond. From Simple Moments Stick

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  8. Aw so sweet! Congrats <3 Love wins #authenticbloggers

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  9. That is such a sweet story! He sounds like a keeper! My stepdad was persistent in pursuing my mother as well and she had 3 young children! Happy anniversary!

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  10. such a cute post idea & what a wonderful story :)

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  11. "Sometimes you can stay in touch with old friends even if you go a decade without seeing them in person. Sometimes you can't." i'm realizing just how true this is lately, and just how much trickier it gets with a baby. sometimes people transition with you into a new season of life, and sometimes they don't (despite best intentions!). also, you and angel have just about the cuest love story ever ever -- i would love to double date with y'all somehow someday:)

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  12. Awww... This is absolutely the sweetest thing! <3<3<3 You guys are adorable!

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  13. Happy anniversary! I'm not good at future predicting either ;)

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  14. Rachel, I LOVED this. The sweetest thing you've written. Happy Anniversary!

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  15. 5 years is significant-- thanks for getting mushy! :) Loved reading your story. Congratulations!!

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  16. Happy Anniversary! This was beautiful. I am the exact opposite. I knew my husband was the one I was going to spend the rest of my life with from the moment I saw him and I ran. I ran as fast and as far as I could, I wasn't ready. Lucky for me, he was persistent and I get to wake up with him everyday.

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  17. Rachel, so sweet and congrats on the anniversary. Enjoy and embrace, grow together and just work through any obstacles in life. Stay best friends along your journey. :)

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  18. Very nice post, well written. Congratulations on five years and wishing you the best for many more. Lovely pictures too.

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  19. Happiest of Anniversaries and cheers to a life time more together! Some opposites just belong!

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  20. This is *so* cute. It's always the ones you least expect that end up bringing the greatest memories and joys! Congrats, Rachel! <3

    Coming Up Roses

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  21. This is so beautiful post. Congratulations Rachel for your 5 years of Anniversary. :)

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  22. This is the sweetest, mushiest-in-the-best-way thing I've ever read :)

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  23. Yes so true.. you just never know! I definitely wouldn't have picked Tyler out as my "type" but he ended up being exactly the what I needed. It's good to remember that when our differences prove a little tricky in marriage ;) And I love the part of the story where Angel did a little stalking.. proves he was head over heels too!

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  24. Such a wonderful post!! Beautifully written and so sweet :) It's so true, there are so many people in our life who turn out to be even better than we'd imagined!

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  25. Awww Rach! Happy anniversary!! Your love is something most people dream about ... I am so glad you are as mystified and appreciative of it as the rest of the world is! What a beautiful post. And DANG girl you are workin that lil white dress!!

    Thanks for the fantastic way to start my morning. Have an incredible weekend!!

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  26. So, so sweet :) happy anniversary!

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  27. Happy Anniversary! I never would have thought I would marry a guy like my hubby, but how glad I am that God knows what we need better than we do!

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  28. This post is so sweet! Happy anniversary!
    Charlene xo
    The Frugal Fashionista

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  29. Happy anniversary! I didn't think I'd marry my husband, either, but the universe had other plans.

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  30. It is such an amazing post, dear!
    Have a nice weekend:)

    www.bloglovin.com/blog/3880191

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  31. Happy anniversary! I often think similar thoughts about my husband and me. It's always so unique how God places people in our lives.

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  32. This is soo lovely! Happy Anniversary to the two of you :) May you have so many years more! :) Such a sweet post, I know what you mean about being bad at predicting the future. Ha! Same here sister. Take Care Rachel and celebrate big guys! -Iva

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  33. Aww I love this so much! Y'all's story always intrigues me!

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  34. I'm a firm believer in you find exactly what you need as soon as you stop looking for it. That's how me and my husband met. We weren't looking for each other and we've been together 10 years, married for 2.

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  35. Awww...I loved this post! <3 It gave me warm fuzzies, and definitely gives me hope that there are still great relationships out there. :] Congrats to you and Angel on your 5 years together! <3 Here's to many many more!

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  36. Happy anniversary. Isn't it funny that someone you meet by chance can end up becoming your whole life? Sometimes Phillip and I (12 years) think about what if this or that random event hadn't happened in either of our young lives and we would've never met. And even stranger, none of our kids would exist today! The hand of God is in it, for sure!

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