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14 January 2018

Baby Shower for Our Boy!

If there's one thing that remains consistent in my life, it's a fascination with islands, the sea, ships, and perhaps some occasional piracy.

Because of this, a light "nautical" theme seemed like the obvious choice for my baby shower. Because I'm the usual party planner in the family, I was told, "How about you tell us exactly what you would do if you were planning a baby shower for someone else, and then we'll do it." So, yes, I helped plan and coordinate my baby shower. You can't simply take away all the fun of party planning simply because I'm the one with the baby on the way!

We kept decor minimal, because we held the party at a friend's house instead of our own. Mostly because of the need for seating. We usually have kids' parties and we can have a lot of guests because kids can sit on the floor...but grown-ups need actual seats, right? It turned out to be a wise idea to have the shower at a friend's home because 29 ladies were in attendance--I don't think we would have all fit in our usual living room! :)


The theming mostly showed up in our food--watermelon ships sailing a watermelon sea, and we had blue "seawater" punch (from the same recipe we used for Sarah's mermaid birthday party).


Otherwise we just went with sea-blue accents on our foods of choice--like rice krispie treats, my Mom's favorite dessert!


These pinwheel wraps were just about the best thing I've ever eaten. I ate a good six pieces during "taste-testing" during party prep and then at least 10 little rolls during the party.


Even the deviled eggs had little sails in order to turn them into ships. Yeah...I have a thing for ships. In fact, one of these extremely vivid "pregnancy dreams" recently involved me discovering that my family owned not one but two boats and we were going out sailing off of the beach here. Awesome!



We had a wide variety on the guest list--those in attendance at the party ranged from 80+ years of age to kindergarten age, and came from a number of different countries. Some guests  pulled me aside to excitedly tell me that this was their very first baby shower they've ever attended, and others joked that the first time they heard the term, "baby shower," they couldn't understand why the baby needed a shower when he hadn't even been born yet! A baby shower is definitely a Western tradition that we've brought with us to Southeast Asia--yet another example of the blending of cultures that becomes a matter-of-fact part of life when you live long-term in a country that's not your own! One East-meets-West aspect of this baby shower was that we didn't actually end up opening any gifts at the shower itself. While opening gifts is a very traditional part of American baby showers, we've found that gifts are not usually opened during parties here in Malaysia, so we filled our time with other activities, like games! My favorite sort of games are those that require more in the way of brain exercise than anything else, so those are the kinds of games we played:



Who Was It, Mom or Dad?

In this game, the leader read off facts about either Angel or I as babies or young children, and guests had to all vote at once whether they thought that the fact was true about me, about Angel, or whether it was true for both of us. They voted by holding up little red or blue babies on sticks. We included various kinds of facts, such as birth statistics ("Which one was born at 3:31 a.m.?" "Which one had more hair at birth?") and milestone ages ("Which one walked at 8 months?") and a few anecdotes of early childhood. Some were pretty easy to guess, others were harder. The guests mostly know me much better than they know Angel, so we threw in some tricky questions answered with "both", like "Which one is the firstborn in their family?"--everyone knows I'm the firstborn, but since most here haven't met Angel's family, they might not also know that he's also an oldest kid. The winners of this game tied at getting 15 out of 19 answers correct!


The Price is Right

My Mom bought 5 baby items at the local grocery store, noted the exact prices, and then guests had to guess the price of the item. We used the traditional rules--closest answer without going above the actual price wins! This game was definitely the most competitive! The ladies got really into guessing the price of diapers and wipes and baby lotion and alternately expressed shock if the actual price was less than they thought it would be or much more than they thought it would be. Before guessing, they would question exactly what brand each product was, and what country it was produced in, in order to better inform their guesses. Each person who won received chocolate as a prize, so the stakes were high!


Advice Circle

We had a time for everyone to share their best advice on parenting--no need to actually be a parent to offer advice. In fact, some of the pre-teens and teens gave some pretty wise advice, like, "Patience is a virtue" and "Remember to take lots of pictures" and "Never ask your kid: 'Why did you do that?' because they probably have no idea why they did whatever they did." My Mom gave some suspiciously specific advice, which was, "Make sure to share your baby...with grandma." Other ladies advised that early potty training will save money on diapers, and continuing to invest in your marriage relationship is good for the whole family.

I felt so loved and humbled by this beautiful afternoon spent with friends and family, many who have known me half of my life! (In fact, one lady brought up a story about when I was playing the lead in a high school play and was too frustrated with the rest of the cast because on dress rehearsal night, none of them knew their lines! I feel like I would not be surprised by this sort of behavior from high schoolers nowadays, but when I was 15, I thought it was nigh unforgivable, ha!).

The day after the shower, Angel and I were both a bit in shock about the baby things we now own. Angel was hanging up baby clothes to dry and he was like, "I can't believe I'm hanging up all of these tiny clothes!" And I was like, "I know! Just now I was thinking: I can't believe that we now own toys! Who would have ever thought? Toys? In our house?" Just the beginnings of a new adventure...

25 comments :

  1. Aww! This sounds like so much fun! And you look beautiful! I'm so happy for you and Angel!

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  2. so cute! I too remember when after Reuben's shower and the plethora of items to put away....seems like ages ago!

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  3. That sounds like lots of fun.

    Look at all of you in your bare feet! It is currently -17C outside here right now : (

    Suzanne

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  4. SO fun!!! Baby showers are one of my favorites parties ever!!! :) I LOVE the idea for the "Who was it?" game!! I'm going to borrow that idea, if that's ok! I always love hearing the advice that people have!! I always give them a box of kleenexs as part of my gift, and tell the expectant mom that it's ok to cry. The first few months can be very hard, depending on how your hormones treat you and if your baby is chill or, um, angry at the world like my first was. Haha! And, breast-feeding was NOT working. So, it was a hard transition for me becoming a momma and I cried a lot--but I was too embarrassed to tell anyone because I felt like such a failure! I also felt guilty that I wasn't "so happy!" like the other new-mommas I saw on Facebook. After the fact, I realized that I had been dealing with postpartum depression, but I didn't recognize it at the time. My mom was the one who started asking me questions like, "So Amy...how much are you crying everyday?" since she was seeing red flags when we'd talk on the phone. (And since I'd often start crying.) Then she started visiting me a lot and letting me cry and vent, as well as a few other good friends who also had new babies. Every time I got to talk through the things I was struggling with and hear their reassurance (and let them give me a break and love on my new baby!) I felt sooo much better. :) With my second babe, things went much better!! I gave myself permission to cry and talked about things when they were hard and totally skipped the guilt. Plus, by second was a happy baby who could breastfeed! It was so much easier! But, it's different for every new momma, so I just always let them new mommas know that it's ok to struggle, and that they should talk about it and seek help if they do!!! It's a big change, so no matter how grateful and happy you are to be a momma and to have that baby, it can be overwhelming, exhausting, and hard for a few months. Anyway, that's my 2 cents. :) Also, you look beautiful! And, do you know the recipe for the little tortilla roll-ups? They look delish!!

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  5. such an adorable shower! I love baby showers and it looks like you guys did a great job. the food looked delicious!

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  6. this is so fun and what a great shower! Looks like everything was beautiful and love all the pictures!

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  7. This is SO cute! Looks like everyone had a great time! Congratulations!

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  8. Wow, interesting baby shower. I love how interactive you made it. Cool games you had.

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  9. Adorable! The nautical theme is a hit 'round here, too.
    #modestmonday
    Katelynn, hampersandhiccups.com

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  10. Love the nautical theme! So cute! Congratulations! :)

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  11. Love the nautical theme and the food looks delicious! I'm so glad you and baby got spoiled!

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  12. Love the theme! This turned out so cute!

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  13. It sounds like you had a wonderful time! It was fun reading about how many of your guests were unfamiliar with the concept of a baby shower, LOL!

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  14. What a fun time! The theme is adorable and it is funny to read how many people weren't familiar with baby showers!

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  15. I didn't realize that baby showers were more of a Western thing, but honestly, I'm not that surprised. That's exciting that some of your guests were able to enjoy their first one! It sounds like you had a lot of fun - love all the games and the cute food. Rice krispies are just so yummy. A favorite of mine too. I'd totally have to help with planning too. LOL It's just fun - you couldn't leave me out of that! Everyone else can do the rest of the work though. :)

    -Lauren
    www.shootingstarsmag.net

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  16. How fun. I'm glad they had a baby shower for you. I think it is so interesting how all the cultures do things very distinctly. When we lived in Korea there was a European there (Swedish maybe?) and she was so surprised that we had baby showers before the baby was born. Apparently they don't do them until after the baby is born in case something bad happens before. I thought it was interesting but I can understand their point of view as well.

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  17. I just love the nautical theme!! So fun and so exciting. The sailboat fruit bowl is so darling!!

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  18. Those rice cakes!!! AAAAHHH! Congrats to you! I wait for the day I have my baby. I know he's going to be a boy and I already have his name!

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  19. I love the nautical theme! This sounds and looks so fun :) I think it's really neat that you guys played fun games instead of just focusing on gifts, since that's not really part of the culture over there-games are way more fun! That price is right game sounds especially exciting!

    So I've got to ask, do you know what was in those pinwheels? They look AMAZING.

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  20. This is so, so sweet! I am throwing a baby shower for a friend here in a few weeks and I love the ideas!

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  21. This is so exciting! What a great baby shower theme. Its so awesome how you are now at the end of this pregnancy journey, and soon you will have a little boy in your arms. God bless you and your family! I look forward to hearing about all the parenting adventures you will have.

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  22. I'm also keen on some occasional piracy! The whole occasion looks like so much fun, how great to have so many lovely ladies to celebrate with. I'm not familiar with baby showers either, although I think they're beginning to catch on a little here in Australia. I'd have no idea what to do/whether to bring a gift/what kind of gift - etiquette is so important to us Brits and I'd feel completely at sea (pardon the thematic pun) if invited to one. In the UK traditionally there's no shower or anything, you just go and visit the new mother and baby when they're ready for visitors, and bring a gift then. Also because at that point you know gender/name/size etc etc so it's a bit easier to pick a present.

    I'm generally not a fan of party games as they can be a bit cringey, but these sound very fun indeed. Come to think of it you always have fun games at your parties, I think you have a knack.

    My Grannie's top tip for first time mothers is: have your second child first. Thanks, Grannie....

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  23. Those teeny tiny baby shoes are the best (however impractical)! The anticipation is killing me

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  24. What a great shower! I personally love nautical themed anything! I never really thought of baby showers being a Western thing but it totally makes sense.

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  25. Aww, these are all so cute--I love the little sails on the deviled eggs + the overall theme (and now I really want rice krispy treats)! Sounds like a lot of fun! :]

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