And the rest of the day I felt like I was dancing on air--because it's true, and I'm glad for the amazing team we've become over the years.
We're so different. You're strong where I'm not, and I remember everything you forget.
I find everything about you lovable--even your forgetfulness is reliable.
They say people change after marriage, and we definitely have. You've slowly become gentler as you've learned to understand the value of gentleness and the softer emotions. I've become braver, been able to do things that I never thought I'd be tough enough to do, simply because I know you'll be with me every step of the way, and help me when I can't go further.
Our vocabulary has changed because of each other. You taught me phrases that have become family slogans of sorts: "That's normal." or "It was easy."
I have never met anyone else like you, anyone else nearly so prone to making everything sound easy. The normal human is prone to making a day's worth of work sound hard. We want to be praised and admired for our accomplishments, so we maybe exaggerate just a little, stress how many emails we wrote or how many loads of laundry we did or how long it took us to make dinner or how often the baby woke up and needed to eat.
But you're different. For as long as I've known you, everything you've ever done has been "easy" or "normal." I knew you during senior year of nursing school. Every other nursing student I've ever known has talked about what a big deal it is to deal with clinicals and preceptors and exams and the NCLEX. I sat across you while you studied for the exams, and then you were done studying, and then you graduated and passed the NCLEX and started working and paid off your student loans and married me and never even made it seem like you had accomplished anything much.
I was always there when you came home at 8 a.m. after a 12 hour night shift at the hospital, and I'd greet you eagerly at the door and ask you how work was and you'd say "It was easy!" Now you're getting ready to start a new job and I love to see how diligently you're working to gain all the new skills you'll use in your new career.
Whatever job you've had in our marriage, it's been "easy" for you, and I expect that you'll take on your new role with the same grace. You've even offered your opinion that the addition of Cyrus to our family was an "easy" process...though I might be even more mystified than usual by your perception of the early months of this year.
We don't always experience the events of our lives the same way, but we experience them together, and that's what makes all the difference.
I loved reading this, Rachel. What a beautiful relationship you two have. :)
I am in awe of your husband's cheery outlook as well. I need to work on being more like that.
Also, you look stunning in that red gown. Was it your wedding dress?
Seven years in the blink of an eye, right? Good teamwork makes all the difference and I'm glad you found that with Angel
Awww...happy anniversary! Being a good team certainly makes marriage easy :)
No, it wasn't, though that would have been an amazing wedding dress! I wore it for the anniversary photos we took last year! :)
Happy anniversary! This is such a lovely reflection. It's so neat to look back over marriage. I haven't been married quite as long as you (it'll be 5 years in August) and already I can see just how much we have changed in so many small and large ways. It makes me really excited to be an old married couple (if, God-willing, we live that long) who has been married a number of decades :)
Happy anniversary! That's a great attitude - I don't like it when people try to outcompete each other on who does the most. That's not the point! It's interesting to reflect on how people have changed within a marriage, and a helpful exercise too. Congrats on 7 years!
What a beautifully written heartfelt post. This brought tears to my eyes. Thanks for sharing your intimate thoughts with us.
Happy Anniversary!
Suzanne
This is such a sweet post! And it's not even your anniversary ;) (December, right? Am I crazy? Why do I know this?)
Ah, this is so sweet!
Nope, you're right, and you're not crazy, we've just been blogging a long time! It's actually 7.5 years exactly.
This is really the sweetest thing I've ever read! Thank you for that! Thanks to you, I remembered all the good things that happened between my husband and me, before our decision to file for divorce in Washington state. True, family life is so wonderful! Loving someone is just incredible! And being loved is even better!
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